“When I was young, my parents divorced and I rarely saw my father. Several years later my mother and stepfather also divorced. Then, I rarely saw my stepfather. I realize now that from those experiences I started to believe some incorrect ideas: marriages don't work and men leave you.
“As damaging as that belief was and is, it didn’t stop there. As I continued through life, I transferred that belief to God: God is a man and so he's going to do the same thing to me — abandon me at some point. ‘Why pray?’ I thought. ‘He doesn’t love me.’ ‘He doesn’t care about me,’ I reasoned. ‘He's just going to abandon me anyway.’ Regardless of what I was taught about my Heavenly Father through those years, what I really believed was something very different, and my relationship with Him was definitely strained.
“I realize now that that was because whatever would come through the “box” in my mind, whatever experiences I had, the truths I was taught, even the impressions I would receive from the Spirit, would go through those beliefs and come out as anger, fear, defiance, and selfishness.”
How open will the conduits of heaven be in our lives when we incorrectly define the help that will come through those conduits?
How difficult will it be to feel the comforting witness of God’s love when we have narrow beliefs about what His love looks like?
How will we feel God’s approval or confirmation when disappointment is completely blocking the Lord’s influence — a disappointment, no less, that is completely founded on a false expectation?[xi]